How to find a good mentor

We become like the people we admire and the models we follow. For that reason, we should take great care when determining which people we ask to mentor us. They must not only display professional excellence and possess skill sets from which we can learn, they must also demonstrate character worthy of emulating

Tips to guide you in finding good mentors

1.  Find a next-step mentor. Think about where you are currently in your career and the direction you would like to go. Look for someone you admire who is two or three steps ahead of you on that same track. This person doesn’t necessarily need to be in your organization. Look for the qualities needed in a goal mentor; a worthy example, availability, proven experience, wisdom, willingness to be supportive, and coaching skills. If those are present in this individual, ask him or her to mentor you. Before any meeting with a mentor, come prepared with three to five thoughtful questions, the answers to which will help you significantly. After you’ve met, work to apply what you’ve learned to your own situation. Don’t ask for another meeting until you have done that. At your next meeting, begin the sesson by telling your mentor how you applied what you learned (or how you tried to apply it and failed, so you can learn what you did wrong). Then ask your new questions. Follow this pattern, and you mentor will be rewarded for his or her effort and will probably be glad to continue helping you.
2. We all need people who can help us sharpen specific strengths or navigate through certain problem areas. Whom do you talk to when you have questions related to career, marriage, parenting, spiritual growth, disciplines, hobbies, and so on? No one person can answer all of these questions. You need to find several individual “consultants” to help you.  Spend some time making two lists. First, list the specific strengths or skills you want to improve to reach your potential. Second, list the specific problem areas where you feel the need for ongoing guidance. Begin looking for people with expertise in these particular area and ask them if they would be willing to answer questions when you have them.
3. Do you have long-term models whom you observe, follow, and learn from, people who can give you advice regarding the big picture of your life and career? Or are you trying to improve while having no one but yourself to follow? If you haven’t been asking others to help you on this journey, it’s time to start. Most of us begin by looking for worthy models to follow by reading about them in books. Start there. But don’t leave it at that. Look for people who will give you access to their lives.
   As you look for models and mentors, I want to give you a word of caution. Oftentimes, people look good from far away, but when you get to know them, you discover qualities you don’t admire. If that happens to you, please don’t allow it to discourage you. There are plenty of people out there who have integrity and who are worthy to be respected and followed. Keep looking for them and you will find them

How to Believe in Yourself

I believe all people have the seeds of success within them. All they need to do is cultivate those seeds, water them, feed them, and they will begin to grow. So why do many people fail to grow and reach their potential? I have concluded that one of the main reasons is low self-esteem. Many people don’t believe in themselves. They possess a hundred acres of possibilities, yet never cultivate them because they are convinced that they won’t be able to learn and grow and blossom into something wonderful

Guideline to believe in yourself

1. Make a list of all of your best personal qualities. If you have positive self-esteem, then this will probably be easy for you. If you don’t, you may need to spend days or weeks creating the list. Don’t stop until you have written a hundred positive things about yourself and then spend time every day reading the list to remind yourself of your value. Using the list as a springboard, decide on the one word that best describes you. Make this word your North Star as you begin adding value to yourself.
2. Few things impact a person’s self-esteem more than the way they talk to themselves on a day-totday basis. Are you aware of how you talk to yourself? Keep track by using your smartphone or carrying an index card so you can tally the number of times each day this week that you think something positive or negative about yourself. In addition, you can ask close friends or family members to tell you whether they think you see yourself in a favourable or unfavourable light.
3. If you aren’t doing so already, find a way to serve and add value to others on a weekly basis. Do something that uses your strengths, benefits others, and makes you feel good about yourself. Start small. If you are already serving, then do more. It’s a good rule of thumb to give a tenth of your time to serving and adding value to others. So, for example, if you work forty hours a week, devote four hours to serving others

How To Develop The Power Of Belief

A person is a product of his own thoughts. Believe big. Adjust your thermostat forward. Launch your success offensive with honest, sincere belief that you can succeed. Believe big and grow big.

Here are the three guides to acquiring and strengthening the power of belief”

1. Think success, don’t think failure. At work, in your home, substitute success thinking for failure thinking. When you face a difficult situation, think, “I’ll win,” not I’ll probably lose.” When you compete with someone else, think, “I’m equal to the best,” not “I’m outclassed.’ When opportunity appears, think “I can do it,” never “I can’t.” Let the master thought “I will succed” dominate your thinking process. Thinking success conditions your mind to create plans that produce success. Thinking failure does the exact opposite. Failure thinking conditions the mind to think other thoughts that produce failure.
2. Remind yourself regularly that you are better than you think you are. Successful people are not supermen. Success does not require a superintellect. Nor is there anything mystical about success. And success isn’t based on luck. Successful people are just ordinary folks who have develop belief in themselves and what they do. Never-yes, never-sell yourself short.
3. Believe Big. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier-certainly no more difficult-than small ideas and small plans

Programming your Attitude

A person is a product of his own thoughts. Believe big. Adjust your thermostat forward. Launch your success offensive with honest, sincere belief that you can succeed. Believe big and grow big.

Here are the three guides to acquiring and strengthening the power of belief”

1. Think success, don’t think failure. At work, in your home, substitute success thinking for failure thinking. When you face a difficult situation, think, “I’ll win,” not I’ll probably lose.” When you compete with someone else, think, “I’m equal to the best,” not “I’m outclassed.’ When opportunity appears, think “I can do it,” never “I can’t.” Let the master thought “I will succed” dominate your thinking process. Thinking success conditions your mind to create plans that produce success. Thinking failure does the exact opposite. Failure thinking conditions the mind to think other thoughts that produce failure.
2. Remind yourself regularly that you are better than you think you are. Successful people are not supermen. Success does not require a superintellect. Nor is there anything mystical about success. And success isn’t based on luck. Successful people are just ordinary folks who have develop belief in themselves and what they do. Never-yes, never-sell yourself short.
3. Believe Big. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier-certainly no more difficult-than small ideas and small plans

How you can become a creative Thinker

Good thinkers are always in demand in organization or in a Nation. A person, who know how, will always have a job. But the person who knows why will always be his boss.

Good thinker solve national and organization problem, they never lack ideas and they always have hope for a better future. Good thinkers are successful people in anywhere they are. Good thinkers in education sectors, they offer the best to the student. Good thinker in business they generate a lot of revenue, good thinker in music industry they produces the best music to the society. The good thinker in Technology industry they have good ideas to bring new invention and renovation to the society. Good thinker in politics they have ideas to solve the society problem. You can discover a successful person just by the way he thinks.

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT CHANGING THINKING.

1. Changing thinking is not automatic: changing thinking cannot happen on its own. If you want to find good ideas you need to go and search for it. If you want to become a better thinker you need to work on it and overcome the challenges before you can become the better thinker. When you become good thinker ideas keep coming to you 
2. Changing thinking is difficult: To change your thinking is difficult that why not everybody is is a thinker. Thinking is hard work; you must discipline yourself and focus to become a good thinker. Uses anything you have to change your thinking to become a good thinker
3. Change thinking is worth to invest: when you learn to think and you become a better thinker you are investing on yourself. Stoke market can crash, real estate may go down, but a human mind with ability to think well is like a diamond mind is priceless.

HOW YOU CAN BECOME A BETTER THINKER

Do you want to become a good thinker? Then you must do the following

1.  Expose yourself to good import: good thinkers are always prime of ideas, they always looking things that will stimulate them to think better. They are hungry to read good books, listen to tape that will motivate them to think big, finding great people that they will learn from them, attending seminar.
2.  Expose yourself to good thinker: spend time with right people and you will get right information that will make you a good thinker. Chose people that will challenge you to think good thought. If you want to be a sharp thinker then you must walk with sharp thinker.Choose to think good thought: to become a good thinker you must discipline yourself to think good thought. Good thought can bring good ideas that will solve some problem. When you have some good ideas write them down on a notepad. Always capture your ideas on paper.
3.  Act on your Thought: Ideas have a short time life. You must be ready to art on your ideas before the expiring day.
4. Allow your emotion to create good thought: if you wait till you feel to think, you cannot be able to be a good thinker. If you want to be a good thinker you must create special time for you to think.

You will end with a golden Crown

Maybe you are tempted to give up on a dream. Things haven’t turned out the way you planned. It was going fine at first, but then you had some obstacles and you think, it just wasn’t meant to be. Here is what I have learned. The enemy doesn’t try to stop you from starting. He has seen a lot of people start. That doesn’t bother him. But when you have a made-up mind and keep pushing forward, doing the right thing, taking new ground, when he sees you getting closer, he will work overtime even he will employ a lot of people to join him try to keep you from finishing. Don’t get discouraged when you have setbacks, people come against you, or you get a negative medical report. That’s a sign that you are moving toward your finish line. When you have a setback always believe in yourself and keep focusing because the best is ahead of you.

The enemy was fine when you got started. He was fine when you were far from finishing. No big deal to him. But when you began to make progress that got his attention. That is when he threw out some obstacles, some challenges. Where you confused him is he thought you would give up after the first few difficulties. He thought you would get discouraged when that friend turn on you, He thought you would get discouraged when that relationship break out, when you lost the contract, when your child get in trouble, but instead you kept moving forward, Believing that God is with you and you will come to a finishing point, Thanking God for His promises over your life, thanking God that He is in control, thanking Him that He is fighting your battles, thanking Him that no weapon formed against you will prosper. What were you doing? Tapping into the finishing grace. When you should have gotten weaker, you got stronger. When you should have been depressed, you had a smile on your face. When you have been complaining, you had a song of praise. Instead of talking about how big the problem was, you were always talking about how big is your God is. When you should have gone, God caused you to go over. When you didn’t see a way, He made a way. When people came against you, He fought your battles and you came out better than you were before.

You may be up against challenges right now. It’s because you are moving forward. You are making progress. Keep reminding yourself that God is the author and the finisher of your faith. He helped you to get started. That is great, but there is something more important: He is going to help you finish. He didn’t bring you this far to leave you without finishing.

It says in Philippians, “God began a good work in you, and he will continue to perform it until it is complete.” One translation says, “He will bring you to a flourishing finish”- not a defeated finish, where you barely make it and are beat up and broke. You are coming to a flourishing finish, a finish more rewarding than you ever imagined

There is greatness within you, don’t give up on your dreams because of what you are passing now. You are close to your breakthrough. Don’t give up because of pain or setback. Live to trust in God at all time.

YOU ARE A ROYALTY

The scripture talks about how God has made us to be kings and priests unto Him. Men, you need to start seeing yourself as a king. Women, start seeing yourself as a queen. Start carrying yourself as royalty. Not with arrogance, thinking that you are better than others, but in humility be proud of who God made you to be. You are not better than anyone else, but you are not less than anyone else either. It doesn't matter how many degrees they have. It doesn't matter how important their family is. Understand, your father created the whole world. When he breathed His life into you and sent you to planet Earth, you didn't come as ordinary. You didn't come as average. He put a crown of honour on your head. Now, start thinking as royalty, talking as royalty, walking as royalty, and acting as royalty.

I was watching Television 2017 when Her royalty Majesty of England was celebrating her birthday. When the queen walked in the room, you could feel the strength, the confidence, and the dignity. She had her head held high and a pleasant smile on her face. She waved to everyone as though they were her best friends. What was interesting was that there were all kinds of important people in that meeting. There were president of the United State of America Barack Obama and other presidents of different Nations. World-renowned entertainers, famous athletes, scientist, and some of the brightest, most talented people in the world. But-and I say this respectfully-the queen was not the most beautiful person in the room. There were other ladies who were younger and much more beautiful, but judging from the way the queen carried herself, you would have though she was the cat’s meow. She had it going on-strong, confident, secure. The queen wasn't the wealthiest, fittest, or most educated woman in the room either. A lot of people would have been intimidated walking into that room, but not her. She walked in as though she owned the place. Why? She knows who she is. She’s the queen. She comes from a long line of royalty. It’s been ingrained in her thinking, I’m not average. I’m not ordinary, I’m one of a kind.

No doubt some morning when the queen wakes up, the same thoughts come to her mind that come to all of us. You are not as beautiful as your sister. You are not as talented as your brother. You are not as smart as your coworker. Be intimidated. You are inferior. The queen lets that go in one ear and out the other. She thinks, what are talking about? It doesn't matter how I compare to others. I am the queen. I have got royalty in my blood. In my DNA is generations of influence, honour, and prestige.

If you and I could ever start seeing ourselves as the kings and the queens God made us to be, we would never be intimidated again. You don’t have to be the most talented to feel good about yourself. You don’t have to be the most educated or the most successful. When you understand your heavenly Father breathed His life into you, you too come from a long line of royalty. Instead of being intimidated or made to feel insecure by some one who you think is more important, you can do like the queen. Just be at ease, be kind. Ladies, you may not be the most beautiful person, but be confident you are the queen to your spouse. Men, you may not be the most successful, but stand up tall. You are the king on the throne. You are crowned not by people but by Almighty God.

But a lot of times we think, I can’t feel good about myself. I have got this setback. I struggle with a bad temper. I have made a lot of mistakes in life. I don’t feel like a masterpiece. Here’s the key: your value is not based on your performance. You don’t have to do enough good and then maybe God will approve you. God has already approved you as a king or queen.

How you can develop your power to see what can be

Here is how you can develop your power to see what can be, not just what is. I call these the “practice adding value” exercises.

1. Practice adding value to things: you need to ask yourself, “What can I do to ‘Add value’ to this room, car, business, mountain, class,?” always look for ideas to make things around you worth more. A thing-whether it be a vacant lot, a house, car, or a business-has value in proportion to the ideas for using it.
2. Practice adding value to people: as you move higher and higher in the world of success, more and more of your job becomes “people development.” Ask, “what can I do to ‘add value’ to my subordinates? Remember to bring out the best in a person, you must first visualize his best.
3. Practice adding value to yourself: conduct a daily interview with yourself. Ask, “What can I do to make myself more valuable today?” visualize yourself not as you are but as you can be. Then specific ways for attaining your potential value will suggest themselves. Just try and see.

Big thinkers see themselves as members of a team effort, as winning or losing with the team, not by themselves. They help in every way they can, even when there is no direct and immediate compensation or other reward

Four ways to develop the big thinker’s vocabulary

Here are four ways to help you develop a big thinker’s vocabulary.

1. Use big, positive, cheerful words and phrase to describe how you feel. When someone asks, “How do you feel today?” and you respond with an “I’m tired (I have a headache, I wish it were Sunday, I don’t feel so good),” you actually make yourself feel worse. Practice this: it’s a very simple point, but it has tremendous power. Every time someone ask you, “How are you?” or “How are you feeling today?” respond with a “just wonderful! Thanks, and you?” or say “Great” or “Fine.”  Say you feel wonderful at every possible opportunity, and you will begin to feel wonderful-and bigger, too. Become known as a person who always feels great. It wins friends. 
2. Use bright, cheerful, favourable words and phrase to describe other people. Make it a rule to have a big, positive word for all your friends and associates. When you and someone else are discussing an absent third party, be sure you compliment him with big words and phrases like “He is really a fine fellow.” “They tell me he is working out wonderfully well.” Be extremely careful to avoid the petty cut-him-down language. Sooner or later third parties hear what’s been said, and then such talk only cuts you down. 
3. Use positive words to encourage others. Compliment people personally at every opportunity. Everyone you know craves praise. Have a special good word for your wife or husband every day. Notice and compliment the people who work with you. Praise, sincerely administered, is a success tool. Use it! Use it again and again and again. Compliment people on their appearance, their work, their achievements, their families.
4. Use positive word to outline plan for others. When people hear something like this: “here is some good news. We face a genuine opportunity…..” their minds start to sparkle. But when they hear something like “whether we like it or not, we’ve got a job to do,” the mind movie is dull and boring, and they react accordingly. Promise victory and watch eyes light up. Promise victory and win support. Build castles, don’t dig graves!